嗨！罗宾（Robyn）休蜜月时很高兴在这里做客。几年前，我在年度营养师会议FNCE上遇到了Robyn。从那以后，我们’已成为朋友，每年都可以在FNCE上闲逛，并至少每月和其他一些志同道合的RD通过电话聊天’，讨论从博客到最新研究的所有内容。
像罗宾一样，我认为自己是“real” dietitian. I 爱 餐饮。实际上，我一整天都在思考，讨论和写作。无论’在我的私人执业中看到客户，研究专栏或作为食谱开发人员时，食物几乎总是我的重点。我回避饮食问题，并着重于使我感到惊奇和营养的食物，而不是脂肪或卡路里。当然，这花了一段时间才能到达这里。和大多数人一样’我一直在节食。悠悠球’贯穿大多数高中和大学的几乎所有计划都来回走动。一世’对此经验表示感谢；现在，这条路使我能够以更友善，更欣赏的方式欣赏食物，身体和平衡。
It’这次旅行使我抛弃了关于我所见识的任何先入为主的想法’m supposed to weigh and instead focus on my 快乐 weight. Most of us have a 快乐 weight. That weight where you’re comfortable in your clothes, you don’t hate your closet every time you get dressed, you’re 快乐 when you head to the gym, and you don’t deny yourself the brownie, croissant, or piping hot bowl of mac-and-cheese. You’re, you know, 快乐.
Which may or may 不 be your 理想 body weight. Your 理想 weight is what you will most often get when you ask a medical professional that wonderful question, “how much 应该 I weigh?” Why does this exist? Why do so many of us focus on a specific place on a scale instead of where we are most content?
Instead, I’d like you to try to think about your 快乐 weight. This may or may 不 be a number. More than likely, it’s a feeling.
对我而言，在5'4“时，我的“理想体重”是120。120！我是 不 120.即使在饮食极端限制的日子里，我也没有’t 120. It’只是不是我的身体如何组合在一起。
要接近120，我需要在三明治上拿出甜点，与女友一起喝红酒，休息日和鳄梨。如果我每天在健身房花费2个小时并将卡路里保持在1400以下，我可以尝试达到120。我可以尝试这样做。但是我不会。
I’m 不 快乐 at 120. I’ve tried to get to 120 and…. well, I was miserable. Not only was I miserable, but I’m pretty sure I made everyone else around me miserable, too.
My husband wanted a date night? Not if I didn’t get to the gym earlier in the day. Girlfriends want to meet for 快乐 hour drinks? If my calorie total for the day was already too high, I skipped it.
Somewhere in grad-school it clicked. In order to be 快乐, I 不能 be my 理想 weight. An 理想 weight that I 应该 point out was 不 chosen by me, but by a textbook.
Instead, I asked myself, where am I most 快乐? While the only time I 真实ly know my true weight is at the doctor’s office once a year, I know that my 快乐 weight is somewhere a pant size or two above that 120. That’s my 快乐 place, my 快乐 space. I don’t share that to reveal a specific size, just to show how different my 快乐 weight is compared to where an 理想 height and weight chart put me at. That didn’为我工作，它’s okay if it doesn’也不会为您工作。
Girlfriends want 快乐 hour? Of course! I’d rather sacrifice any ab ambition for quality time with my best friends. My husband wants a date night? Of course! I’ll balance my nutrient-dense entree with wine and split dessert. If I start to 不 feel as comfortable in my skin, it’s OK. I’会根据自己的感受来改变我的习惯，而不是因为我有这样做的压力。那里’只要意图不是，锻炼和吃营养食物都没错’t punishment.
I encourage my clients, especially my weight loss clients, to aim for their 快乐 weight over their 理想 weight. As long as you are healthy, it 真实ly doesn’不管你的体重…完全没有。身体有各种不同的形状和大小。随便你’re goal or your journey, I encourage you to switch the focus to whatever makes you 快乐.
有关营养的更多信息（以及许多食谱！）， 跟随我的博客或跟随我 Pinterest的, Instagram的, 推特， 要么 脸书。再次感谢罗宾（Robyn）让我今天与您同在！
这是在纸上100％有意义的事情之一，但是要完全拥抱并生活在现实中实在是太难了。一世’m workin’ on it!
I am trying t make my 快乐 weight much lower than a healthy weight for my height 应该 be. I gave up all the situations you mentioned above plus more. I am terribly unhappy starving down to a weight that is substantially much lower than what I 应该 probably be. Problem is, if I gain weight and experience 快乐 situations, deep down inside I am miserable with the number on the scale so I’m never 真实ly 快乐. I have chosen to be 快乐 with the number on the scale rather than 快乐 with enjoying life experiences. I have 不 been able to have it both ways. 🙁 Any suggestions?
嗨，贝丝，非常感谢您的评论。一世’我相信罗宾也会在这里跳得更多，但我想你’我碰到了头上的钉子。它’很难同时兼顾。快乐的体重恰恰说明了这一点；你最开心的地方听起来像你’我们已经确定这两个选择确实不是’t “happy”给你的地方。相反，我’d专注于食物和运动能使您感觉最佳，消除饥饿，减少对实际数字的关注，而更多地关注身体的感觉。幸福的体重没有’不一定意味着体重增加（或减轻！），这意味着找到一种心态，让自己感觉最佳，并放弃对自己所想的任何想法“should” weigh.
I (mostly) gave up the idea of being my 理想 weight several years ago, and my weight has been stable for a few years now, with a few ups and downs. It is very difficult to give up the fantasy of being back at the weight I was thrilled with when I starved all day and overexercized. I am at my 快乐 weight, but 不 快乐 with my weight. I am mostly resigned to being 25 lbs overweight, but I still feel self-conscious and long to be smaller. I no longer indulge in disordered eating and exercise, but I’我不确定我是否真的能与自己的身体保持和平。
我喜欢这个！我才五岁’0 so my weight 应该 be way down there –永远不会发生！一世’ve注意到，当我感觉良好时……以及当我开始感觉不太舒服时，我肯定会感觉到！只是要留意这些感受并听– hard to do though!
I’m trying always to be my 理想 weight, but sometimes I fail to achieve that, but i didn’t give up.
I always follow fixed routine to be in 理想 weight, and I also do exercises often daily.
非常感谢您分享此信息；这对我来说仍然是一个挣扎，但是在5点′ 3″ I’比以前沉重的心情快乐得多。
爱你说的话，尤其是在这一行：“There’只要意图不是，锻炼和吃营养食物都没错’t punishment.”
谢谢阿比盖尔！
I absolutely 爱 this. I am 32 years old and am JUST NOW figuring this out. I have spend the last decade (plus) of my life trying to be a certain size. Like you pointed out here, in order to get to that size, I literally have to give up on many things in life that make me 快乐. What’这是重点吗？我正在学习接受自己的身材，并发现自己很容易保持体重，不会感到不适’需要付出巨大的努力。
我喜欢这个帖子。你说的那句话引起了我的共鸣，“In order to be 快乐, I 不能 be my 理想 weight.” Lately I have been going back and forth with my mind and my heart. I feel 快乐 now, but know that I am 不 at what the world has deemed “ideal”为了我。有几天我不’感觉很好，但我不再处于我拒绝自己和他人相处的地方。阅读其他评论，让我感到难过的是，最简单的事情（听自己和您的身体需要）是女性最难的事情。
哦，我真的很喜欢这个。当某人体重超过其体重时，这可能会变得非常棘手“ideal”重量，但没有’t feel 快乐. Finding that balance of how to engage in behaviors make you feel food about yourself, but aren’惩罚，是如此的困难。我喜欢你说的– “只要有意向，运动和吃营养食品都没有错’t punishment” –肯定会使用它！
我喜欢这个帖子！我爱它就像讨厌IBW。 Boo Hamwi。在每次饮食实习期间，我每次都不得不使用它。
I feel the exact way about my 快乐 weight vs “ideal weight.” When I was my “ideal weight”，我痴迷于完美饮食，基本上没有社交生活。那’s 不 living and 不 理想, in my opinion.
这是一个非常重要的话题。很多时候，我们女人被什么以及如何承受压力“should be” and “should do.” We’所有具有不同身体，思想和灵魂的人。感谢您的明智见解！
我爱，爱，爱这个职位！我上了高中的大部分时间，整个20多岁的时候都饿死了自己，无法承受自己的理想体重。我5岁’3″ and 理想ly, I’d喜欢体重130并穿4-6码。通过锻炼杀死自己并计算所有卡路里，使我的体重下降到135（在一个非常好的一天中是130）和6号（4号仍然是梦）。在我30多岁的某个时候，我已经厌倦了这么努力，并决定专注于保持健康，而不是保持一定的体重/大小。首先，我主要选择全食，并且改变了日常锻炼方式，包括举重…规模上升到140-ish。然后，我停止了卡路里的计数（这简直令人恐惧），并减少了我多久运动一次，其比例上升到145-150，然后从6号变到8号。大约5年后，’s where I still am–145-150磅，具体取决于’在我的生活中，大小是8。这显然是我的身体’快乐的体重，与自己保持不间断的战斗感觉很好！我是否愿意再次成为6码，并能说自己体重为130或135？完全正确！但是，您知道我更爱什么吗？披萨，葡萄酒和巧克力，不要每天在健身房里自杀！我大部分时间都吃干净，真实，完整的食物，并且仍然每周锻炼4-5天，但我的重点是保持健康和强壮，我就是这些人-